Those of you who know me may have figured out that I'm not the most patient gal. When I want something, I want it now. When I decide to do something, I want to do it NOW. I don't like waiting. I don't like weighing pros and cons. I don't like think time. I figure if I make a decision and I regret it, then I'll regret it (like my current bright red hair color) and I'll move on. I'll live with it, and things will be fine.My husband is my opposite. He likes to research and think about things. He searches for the best deals, he gives himself time to 'think things over'. He likes to be prepared. We had a gift certificate to Best Buy and I said, "Hey Ryan... since you've been such a swell husband why don't you use that gift card to buy yourself something fun. Why don't you get a new X-Box game?" What I didn't understand was how painfully difficult this decision would be for him. I didn't realize that he would spend 4 1/2 hours (literally) online watching trailers and reading reviews for every single game that they sold at Best Buy. And I surely didn't realize that he would ultimately decide to be practical and buy himself an electric razor instead.
Which brings me to where I'm at today. A couple of weeks ago we received an amazing gift - two Adult Fast-Tracks season passes to the Park City Mountain Resort. I have never been skiing. Well... that's not entirely true. I went once with a friend in high school and she spent the whole day getting after me because I didn't feel it was necessary to have her instruct me on the proper technique. :) So I'm totally excited to get up there and learn. It's been gorgeous weather and I just can't wait. I went online and bought all the essential clothes to keep us toasty warm. We don't have skis, but I figure we can rent those easy enough. I have tried my hardest to be responsible and think of everything. But... my sweet over-planner just isn't sure we are completely prepared. I have been married to Ryan for long enough now that I take his cautiousness with a sigh and try and wait patiently for him to be ready. He wants to make sure we go up to Park City and check things out, go to a rental place and price things out, gather our equipment and see what we have, go to his parents and borrow what we don't. This is too much thought. Too much planning. I say, what's the worst that can happen? We get up there and freeze a bit? If that happened we could just come right back home.
So my question for you today is: Do you plan and over plan and then plan some more? If so, do you think you're happier being more prepared. Do you feel more satisfied knowing you've weighed all the options? Or are you one who just jumps in half-cocked? Is it really so bad being unprepared? Isn't it better we make a few bad decisions along the way than spending so much time planning that we don't make any at all? Just wondering. :) Give me your thoughts.
9 comments:
You sound just like me and Joel. He is the planner, and researcher, I'm like you just jump in and do it without much thought. It drives me crazy all the planning and waiting around for him to figure it all out. That is to funny.
I plan, but I don't overplan, like my sweet husband. Making a decision with him is much like waiting for him to take his turn in a game . . . slow, but he usually makes the right one EVENTUALLY.
So, I'd like to think I'm between you and Ryan. I like to plan, but once I've made a decision, I don't want to look at anymore options!
I'm JUST like you! I leave everything until the last minute, then hope for the best. Joe's just like Ryan. Not an impulse buyer. At all! Good luck with your ski trip....how fun!
I can do a little of both, when it comes to things I want to buy that are big I will research and find what I want. However when it comes to doing things, I like to just go and do it, and just there and have fun. Plus I am much less likely to back out, if I don't try and research everything about it.
Oh Sarah, I can see this process taking place. I am a planner, and a worrier when I think I haven't planned. So I guess I'm a Ryan.
Actually I've been meaning to converse with you. Everytime I do Telenotes late at night, I think of you and wonder if you miss it. My fingers ache!
Sadly I've been unprepared more times than I would care to admit. Paying more than I could have is bad...so is freezing to death. Be patient with me, and know that I love you. With some planning, we will all come out this alive and happy.
Well, you know my cute honey. He is the over thinker extrodinere. I think it is good to be somewhere in the middle. If you miss all the fun opportunities because you are too buys thinking, then where's the joy in that? But on the same token, if you rush, rush, rush then feel like you totally missed something, that can be discouraging too.
I try to follow, my own advice, but tend to lean more toward your side of the spectrum. Maybe it is a Roundy thing. Remember dad and his "just looking at a couch, oh wait I just bought all new carpet?"
I am somewhere in between. I want to jump right into things, but I tend to stop myself and make myself think it through...most of the time anyway. Aryn, is the biggest planner, researcher you will ever meet!! 4 1/2 hours to pick a game? That is nothing, Aryn would take months before he spent that gift card!! We went out looking for new brown dress shoes for him and it took us an unholy amount of trips to shoe stores and like 2 years before we finally found some for him; and even then I had to threaten him before he would buy them because I was DONE looking at mens dress shoes!! The one pro, in all those shopping trips I got a few new pairs of shoes along the way! Anyway, at least you balance eachother out...Aryn and I do too!!
I'm really impulsive. I like to just jump into things. Like our house my different cars I've owned. I figure when we decide we're going to do something we should do it. With the last van purchase we did a lot of research to see which van was best then we just got one. I think it is good to be prepared and think things through. But I'm also like you, why wait just do it! I guess we all married people like that to teach us patience. I'm learning quite a bit.
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